If you crossed over to the fun side of forty, then I’m a lot like you.
My family was my priority for decades. Don’t get me wrong, I took time for myself and especially more as they grew older. But, I was happy to put my all into our family.
But then, as happens to every Momma, I wasn’t needed in the same capacity as before. I had to make a lot of unexpected adjustments and come to terms with the fact that damn, I had no idea what I wanted to do next. What was my role in life?
I’m so thankful I have a supportive hubby as I worked through things to get to next stages. It feels amazing to know the next steps and give myself permission to change those steps as I go.
Why do I coach?
Easy answer is because I can’t not.
If you ask my family they will say I’ve been bossy since I was born. I see things and I read between the lines when people are talking. I have a knack for asking questions so others can see what they aren’t telling others and may be hiding from themselves.
I coach sports and I love it. I love seeing the track kids grow and improve. If you’ve ever helped with kids sports you know that being a coach is more about mindset than it is about physical abilities.
I’ve worked with 100’s of women in my firefighter wife group and been able to chat with them to figure things out that are happening in their lives and how they can make changes. I’m addicted to the aha moment when they see how they can improve their own lives and hearing how things have improved down the line.
A Little More Personal
So, I’m Val Selby as you can probably guess by the site name. I’ve lived in the Seattle area for all but a few years of my life.
I’m mostly a love me or leave me kind of gal. I’m opinionated, but at 46 I’ve learned to listen much more than I talk. No one would have ever thought that possible 10 years ago.
Our kids are adults and we’re those crazy people who’s dogs are now the kids. Spoiled damn things. We are working on this whole dating thing again which is cool and exciting. Getting to know each other with no kids present is fun. We set life goals and here we are getting really close to the big ones.
The best thing I’ve done in the last 5 years is give myself permission. Permission to change from who I’ve been in the past. Permission to learn anything I want. Permission to do anything I want. Permission to feel and release feelings that I don’t want to keep.
My hope is to help you decide you have permission to do all the things you have dreamed about and that there is still plenty of time to accomplish those dreams!
Happiness is a choice. Live with no regrets,